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For a simple and quick response, review NIST publications to help build out various security functions: https://nvlpubs.nist.gov/nistpubs/SpecialPublications/NIST.SP.800-40r4.pdf
The long answer;Every organization is different and every security program has different “missions” or responsibilities.
Currently my job role is director of security operations. One my primary responsibilities is “Risk Management”, a subsection of that is Vulnerability Management and Patch Management. These are interconnected and build off each other. Ie: my vulnerability management program cannot work effectively if my overall risk management strategy is not detailed and enforced (or does not exist).
Step 1 is defining what your responsibilities to your org are and ensure management “buy in” on enforcing those responsibilities. I have direct line to the CTO and General Counsel at my org, so if I identify a risk to the org I have a direct communication path to the top technical position and legal position in case a situation needs to be escalated, they also trust that I identify and address risk on their (and the companies) behalf.
I effectively wrote a security charter stating my (and my teams) responsibility, detailing my enforcement authority and had it signed off by the general counsel, CTO, and people team ensuring that I have the ability to enforce policy related to our companies risk.
From that Charter, I built a series of policies based of various NIST publications as well as just general “best practices”. Specific to the vulnerability management and patch management question. I created specific policies for those which stated the various risk severities, minimum OS version variance, tolerance levels, and minimum remediation times lines (SLA, etc). As well as escalation channels, acceptance guidelines, and exception request procedures. These are communicated to all relevant parties in the org.
There’s additional work that would be specific to your environment, but there should be a documented workflow for vulnerability or risks to be submitted and reviewed by the necessary departments at your org.
So, as an example. A vulnerability is discovered on a web application. My team submits a jira ticket for it to be patched detailing the source of the vulnerability, risk level, severity level, etc… the responsible party for the application is expected to respond based on the risk and severity levels SLA within the security policy. If they do not respond, there is an escalation workflow where I get involved and ultimately bring the cto, general counsel, and people team (it’s never gotten here before).
Generally, if an escalation happens I schedule a meeting with the application team, and their lead to understand the issue. We adjust response time or risk level and set a date/plan to remediate and work towards that. If they fail to meet that date, we meet again and put more pressure on remediation or otherwise accepting if the risk is low enough.
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